Despite its social component, smoking is a very private and solitary act. Everything happens between the cigarette and you are caused by yourself and no other; there is no way to project blame for your death-daring habit than at yourself. And just as the decision and the act of smoking are private and personal, so is the decision to quit. Trying to quit when you are forced by events or by someone else are almost always doomed to failure, as the element of willpower that is always required when stopping smoking – even if only to coldly decide not to smoke – is a crucial element that can not be brought in by outside sources.
Strangely enough, one of the most powerful things you can do to make sure that you will succeed at quitting smoking is to somehow convince a friend or family member to quit at the same time as you, assuming you still have family members or friends with that disgusting cigarette habit.
There are several advantages to having a friend quit smoking cigarettes at the same time as you. The most obvious one is that you’ll have someone to share your success with someone who is going through more or less the same thing as you are. You’ll have someone to call when you get cravings and you want to talk with someone who knows what you’re going through.
The disadvantage is that their success, and more importantly failures, will reflect on you. If your quitting buddy fails, you’ll have to be very strong to avoid the trap of failing right along with him or her, thinking that you’ll try quitting together later down the road.
Overall, it is clear that having a friend or family member quit smoking cigarettes at the same time as you is a great plan, and should be sought whenever possible, but you should not let the lack of a quitting buddy hold you back.